People think about pursuing goals, or pursuing a mate and so on. It can also be far more effective to attract your goals. You can either figure out the right things to say when pursuing a mate, or you can work on yourself such that a mate will want to find the right things to say to you. You can either pursue money, or you can develop enough value that money will find a way to be attracted towards you (ie. when people say “shut up and take my money!”).
“You don’t catch a rabbit by running faster, you catch a rabbit by attracting it to a trap.” – Truth cake
If you’re struggling with a particular goal, take a step back and see if attracting the goal towards yourself makes things easier.