“It’ll all be fine” is dangerous advice.
“Everything will work out in the end! Trust the universe!” – Bad Guru.
Everything may NOT work out in the end. – Truth Cake.
There’s 2 pieces of reality when it comes to this advice.
- It’ll make you feel better to just think that it’ll be fine in the end. Sometimes, when people were ultra desperate and they knew things wouldn’t work out by the end of their life, the leaned on religion to make them feel like it’ll work out AFTER their dead. What this advice does is MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER about a BAD SITUATION.
- It’ll make you feel WORSE to think it WON’T be fine in the end. But it can spur to try to change things as much as you can to make it better as quickly as possible.
It’s better to feel good because you’re in a situation that warrants feeling good, vs feeling good because you think that your bad situation today will magically be better tomorrow. – Truth cake
Therefore, make a conscious choice on whether to lie to yourself or not with bad advice.
You can decide whether to tell yourself it’ll be alright in the end if it’s something TOTALLY out of your control. And if you CAN control things, don’t lie to yourself. It won’t be better unless you make it better.
Strive for feeling better because your situation is awesome, as opposed to feeling better because you think problems will magically solve themselves.
Thankfully, just TRYING to fix things, regardless of whether you suceed or not, is enough to trigger happiness. So don’t let the fear of failure stop you from trying.
You can feel happier simply trying to make your situation better. – Truth cake
What’s something you’ve been telling yourself will work out in the end, that’s in your control, and that you’re doing nothing to change your current sitaution?
