“You need to list your problems and then start to solve them!” – Bad Guru Most of the problems people spend time trying to solve are not their real problems. A guy wanting to sell beach balls that doesn’t sell many may think he needs to learn marketing better, or to develop a better beach […]

When people reach out to try to be kind, they’re not doing you the favor. They’re doing themselves the favor and you’re also a benefactor. Take kindness from friends and strangers as opposed to saying “no thanks, it’s ok,” or “I don’t need the help,” or whatever. Brighten your own day by brightening theirs – […]

“Think about what you’re passionate about and do that!” – Bad guru. “You need to soul search to find your passion!” – Even worse guru. Bad gurus don’t understand that normal people aren’t passionate about anything, so they don’t know what to pursue, and then it makes them feel like they just need to soul […]

“Think positively!” – Bad guru. “If you can’t see the negative in everything, you’re screwed.” – Truth Cake. People make decisions by listing pros and cons. But beyond the surface, every ‘pro’ is a ‘con’ in some way. And every ‘con,’ is a ‘pro’ in an other way. Many times people want to see the […]

“You need to increase your discipline!” – Bad guru. “Discipline is for losers. Not needing discipline is for winners.” – Truth Cake Getting yourself into situations and environments where discipline isn’t required is the only long term solution. If your job, spouse, etc is wearing you down all day and you realize you don’t have […]

“Everything will work out in the end! Trust the universe!” – Bad Guru. Everything may NOT work out in the end. – Truth Cake. There’s 2 pieces of reality when it comes to this advice. It’s better to feel good because you’re in a situation that warrants feeling good, vs feeling good because you think […]

Certainty is often craved and when it’s found, it’s just an illusion. If you’re certain aliens don’t exist, or certain that 9/11 was an inside job, or certain about anything regarding covid, or certain about anything for that matter, you’re simply not thinking. Certainty is an illusion. – Truth cake. The good news to that […]

“Come listen to my seminar!” – Random bad guru. I hear people speaking at seminars always struggling with the idea of trying to figure out what would be valuable they could talk about that can fit into a 30-60 minute presentation. They realize that’s not enough time to even scratch the surface with attaining the […]