“Sit down and really think about what you want, make a plan and then achieve your goals!” – Random bad guru.
The reason you see how many super rich people miserable is because they thought that was what they wanted but it turns out it wasn’t as good as they thought it’d be. The reality is “thinking about what you want” is a waste of time. It’s like going to a buffet and you’ve never had any of the types of food available before, sitting there and “thinking about it” isn’t going to get you a better idea of what you want.
“In order to figure out what you want, you have to try it first.” – Truth cake.
You’d test drive a car. You’d do a walk-thru in a house before you bought it. You’d try a sample of that beer before you bought a keg of it. But yet when it comes to goals, gurus think you don’t need to try anything out and you can just magically know what you want by “thinking” alone.
Instead, try stuff out as quickly as out can, and then start to refine what you want based on experience, and THEN you can add the ‘thinking’ component to figure out what you liked about an experience, didn’t like, and so on to figure out if you have a goal worth pursuing.
When’s the last time you achieved a goal only to realize it wasn’t what you wanted, and you should have tried to spend some time getting a ‘sample’ of that goal before you invested so much energy into that goal?