We basically only avoid pain / seek pleasure but avoiding pain is MUCH stronger of a motivator. If you hate everything like your job or wife it can make you seek the things you hate less.
If you hate nearly everything, you’ll instinctively gravitate to the thing you hate the least.
Don’t let a positive attitude keeping you from pissing yourself off enough to do something different. – Truth Cake
This is why we hear success stories so often say things like, “I hated my job. I hated my relationship,” etc. Since hate is the primary motivator for most of them and if they hate 99% of jobs, then they’ll land on the job they hate the least (or actually even like). It’s one of the same reasons you hear of so many ‘rags to riches’ stories. They hate their poverty, have nothing to lose,
Amplifying the hate in your life will actually make it better since it’ll push you towards what you really want faster.
Not all negative emotions are ‘bad,’ and they can often be used to push yourself. – Truth cake
It’s the same reason that starting out with having a good life can be a curse for many people. Think about how many people have the same story of starting out being broke and destitute like Lewis Howes, Vin Diesel, Tony Robbins, etc. When your in those terrible situations, it gives you no other options and makes you want to move forward. Sam Johnson (founder of The Hustle) talks about how he is motivated from anger in a similar fashion as well.
But when things are terrible, you have nothing to lose. Tony Robbins talks about how you can do anything with a strong enough “why” (as in a good reason to do it). And when stuff is good there’s not often a good why to motivate you through the pain of progression.
People that use hatred unconsciously and without caution are also the successful people that are hateful assholes. Don’t be that person.
When did you try to quell your hatred for a situation, when in reality, you should have leaned into that emotion to use it productively to make your life better?