“Take my 3 day intensive boot camp to avoid the mistakes I made!” – Random Guru.
Isn’t it interesting that every successful person you hear interviewed talks about all the mistakes they made? Why didn’t they just read the books to learn from other’s mistakes and not do them? Why didn’t they just take that guru’s class to avoid the mistakes? Because the secret is this,
Everything you do is a mistake. – Truth Cake
People have this goal to “avoid mistakes” without realizing what a mistake really is, and also waste time not realizing that literally no matter what, it’s a mistake in some way. It’s a mistake because of what mistake means, which is usually “I could have done this better,” which results in, “I could have been happier.”
Since human beings have an never ending desire for more happiness, then every decision could have been different to result in something making you a tiny bit happier. Making $1M feels like a mistake if you realize you could have made $100M. Cause you’d think you’d have been happier with $100M than $1M. This is why EVERYONE talks about making mistakes that’s ‘made it big.’ Because they know of some way that it could have been better or faster, and consider many decisions along the way that weren’t the “best” to be mistakes.
People often say to stop worrying about making mistakes, and that you’re going to make them. That’s true, but the underlying message is that some of your decisions will somehow NOT be a mistake, and they actually are still mistakes.
Since mistakes are often tied to happiness, if you can be happy regardless of outcomes, then nothing is a mistake. That’s probably only going to be achieved by a monk though, so for the rest of us, we’ll just embrace the mistake, know it could be better in some way, and move forward.
When did trying to avoid mistakes cause analysis paralysis and cause you to waste time by not moving forward? Embrace the mistake.