Certainty is often craved and when it’s found, it’s just an illusion. If you’re certain aliens don’t exist, or certain that 9/11 was an inside job, or certain about anything regarding covid, or certain about anything for that matter, you’re simply not thinking.
Certainty is an illusion. – Truth cake.
The good news to that is that you’ve lived with a lack of certainty your entire life and you’re still alive. So there’s nothing to be afraid of. Secondly, dealing with probabilities, instead of researching for an eternity to be ‘certain,’ allows you to make far better and realistic decisions. And thirdly, all of the things you were ‘certain’ wouldn’t work, may actually have some chance of working after all and this keeps your mind open.
Look for probabilities, not certainties. – Truth cake.
“Come listen to my seminar!” – Random bad guru.
I hear people speaking at seminars always struggling with the idea of trying to figure out what would be valuable they could talk about that can fit into a 30-60 minute presentation. They realize that’s not enough time to even scratch the surface with attaining the skills that matter. So they pick subjects that do matter at least a bit, can be crammed into that short period, and are forced to ignore topics that require hundreds of hours to get good at.
Could you imagine if doctors played the same stupid seminar game entrepreneurs do? Need to learn how to perform surgery? If surgeons were like entrepreneurs, they’d have some ‘mastermind’ where you can “Show up for a 60 minute presentation how to be the best surgeon in your field!”
“Seminars give presenters just enough time to make us good enough to be dangerous.” – Truth cake
It’s not the presenter’s fault. People won’t show up for a 600 hour mastermind unless it’s called “college.” So everyone runs around with a superficial understanding of a lot of things when they really just need to pop open the books and go into the deep work state that’s required to get good at something.
When’s the last time you realized you got more out of a boring, in-depth book than you did from that weekend seminar in terms of attaining deep competency and knowledge?
“Sit down and really think about what you want, make a plan and then achieve your goals!” – Random bad guru.
The reason you see how many super rich people miserable is because they thought that was what they wanted but it turns out it wasn’t as good as they thought it’d be. The reality is “thinking about what you want” is a waste of time. It’s like going to a buffet and you’ve never had any of the types of food available before, sitting there and “thinking about it” isn’t going to get you a better idea of what you want.
“In order to figure out what you want, you have to try it first.” – Truth cake.
You’d test drive a car. You’d do a walk-thru in a house before you bought it. You’d try a sample of that beer before you bought a keg of it. But yet when it comes to goals, gurus think you don’t need to try anything out and you can just magically know what you want by “thinking” alone.
Instead, try stuff out as quickly as out can, and then start to refine what you want based on experience, and THEN you can add the ‘thinking’ component to figure out what you liked about an experience, didn’t like, and so on to figure out if you have a goal worth pursuing.
When’s the last time you achieved a goal only to realize it wasn’t what you wanted, and you should have tried to spend some time getting a ‘sample’ of that goal before you invested so much energy into that goal?
Most people’s advice to others is almost always to do exactly what they’ve done. If you know what they’ve done in the past, then you ALREADY know what their advice is.
Ask Alex Hermozi for some good advice? Learn to sell.
Ask Codie Sanchez? Buy boring businesses.
Ask Brandon Turner? Get into real estate.
Ask Mr Beast? Start making great YouTube videos.
People almost always think that what they’ve done is appropriate for other people and say things like, “If I can do it, then so can you!”
Tough love time…Most people aren’t the same and can’t just do the exact thing that the guru wants you to believe is possible. – Truth Cake
Knowing who you are, and what’s possible for you is not easy but it’s possible. Most people either are overly ambitious and optimistic, and others are buried in a victim mentality that needlessly keeps them stuck.
Learn who you are, release your mental constraints, and look at whom you would have asked for advice and realize that there’s a 99% chance that if you DID ask them for advice, they would just say to do the exact same thing they’ve done. – Truth Cake.
When’s the last time you asked some person for advice, and when they gave it, you realized it was exactly what you already knew?
It’s easier to just do the thing rather than try to find the strategy that makes it “easier” to do. Mastering your willpower sounds hard, but what’s harder is to cater every strategy or plan you have in life to conform to your lack of willpower.
Controlling yourself is hard, but what’s oddly harder is finding strategies that are easy but still give the same results as a strategy that required a lot of willpower. – Truth Cake.
It’s like diets that sound easy to stick with, but finding a diet that actually works well may have so much more complexity to it than simply “go hungry,” that it’s actually harder to do than just the simple diet that is willpower intensive such as “go hungry.”
What’s something you’ve done that catered to a lack of willpower (ie. easy to stick with) that actually ended up being HARDER than just doing what you know you needed to do, but relied more heavily on your willpower?
A lot of people want to learn about something as much as possible before actually getting started. The easiest way to determine whether you still need to research and learn more or just get started is at the point that when you’re continuing to research something and everything coming up is stuff you already know.
This is how dieting works, real estate, or anything for that matter. There’s a point where you learn a ton because everything is new, and then finding new info tapers off as you start to already know more and more, then it’s probably time to move forward.
What’s something you should have just started sooner than later but you wasted time b/c you ended up researching the topic endlessly?
“Find something your good at and make a business out of that!” – Random bad guru.
If you’re good at digging ditches, that doesn’t mean you should be a ditch digger. A lot of people that don’t want to have kids have people say things like, “You should have kids – you’d be a great parent!”
But just because you’re good something doesn’t mean you should do it. – Truth Cake.
Figure out if you’re good at something you want to do, and if not, then get good at something else and do that.
What’s something you did solely because you were good at it only to realize it was a mistake?
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