Stop pursuing your dreams.

Many years ago, I had a friend that loved going out in hopes to pursue his soul mate. It’s a good idea to get moving towards trying to pursue what you want. But it would have been easier if he just instead spent time thinking about how to become an attractive man.

They call it the Law of the Attraction. Not the Law of Pursuit. 

Pursuing something implies it’s running away from you. It’s inherently harder to pursue something than it is to attract it. If he had become a highly attractive man (ie. rock star, celebrity, home town hero, etc), women would chase him – they would pursue him, and he would attract them.

You can go about getting what you want in either 2 ways:
1) Pursue it, which implies it’s harder and moving away from you without effort. This strategy works – it’s how most of nature works (eg. tigers vs gazelle).
2) Attract it, which implies it’s easier and moving towards you without effort. This strategy works much better and revolves around working on yourself (become an attractive person – letting girls hit on you), which changing yourself is easier to alter than the other way around.

What are you chasing that would instead come to you if you changed something about yourself?

Jan-2019 Update – Dammit if Tai Lopez didn’t say it better, he said, “Never chase what you want. Elevate your game until what you want chases you.” Nicely said. I said it first, Tai said it better.