“Write down 20 goals you have. Now mark your top 5. Scrap the remaining 15 goals because you’re going to just focus on the top 5!” – Random Guru
If life was a genie, it’d give you 1 wish, not 3. Because people negate their first wish with their 2nd or 3rd wish.
This advice might be good, it might be garbage, and the reason why is that people’s goals aren’t consistent with what’s real or possible. People will have a goal like, “I want to build a 7 figure business.” and “I want to spend more time with my family.” Well, you’re probably not spending more time with the family while trying to build a new multi-million dollar business. If these wishes were directly at a genie, the 2nd wish would destroy the 1st wish out of existence.
People’s goals don’t co-exist with one another and therefore cancel themselves out and nothing is achieved.
People will have 2 goals like saying they want to “Relax on a hammock sipping margaritas in the tropics and work from my laptop.” and also, “Become a body builder.” Bad news…you’re not drinking margaritas and lounging around while also becoming a bodybuilder.
People need to have one singular specific goal, and that’s it. Everything beyond 1 goal is inviting the chance that it’s not possible for your goals to coexist. This is also why it’s valuable that you find someone that is living a lifestyle similar to what you may like to experience, because you know it’s possible if they’re doing it. However, it’s a tricky situation, since Naval mentions the trick to eliminating envy is simply, “Imagine swapping lives entirely with the person you are jealous of.” You may be envious of that person’s bank account, but not nearly so much when you consider their awful relationships or whatever.
There’s a trap with modeling someone else: time.
It may be a situation where you need to achieve one goal and THEN the next for them to coexist. Meaning you CAN have a 7 figure business and spend a lot more time with your family, but perhaps striving for both of those goals at the same time is foolish. Also, the order matters – it’s easier to get the business going on autopilot and THEN spend more time with the family, rather than spending more time with the family and THEN trying to grow a business from scratch.
You can make life easy – focus on the most important goal. Sometimes, you have to balance things out between multiple goals, but sometimes you’re not going to get the goal you set out for either.
What goals do you have that may not be able to co-exist with one another?
What singular goal should you focus on?
What goals CAN co-exist, but need to be done in a certain order?
What order must be they be done in?