Having inaccurate beliefs can help you reach the next level.
Dan Kennedy talks about you should be interpreting all news as good news, since it’s very difficult to know if something that seems “bad” leads to something “good” later on. You never get any momentum of moving forward if you’re always assessing each thing as “good or bad” and also considering that many things are bad. Therefore, outside of clearly devastating things like short-term terminal illnesses, it’s best to go ahead and interpret all news as good news.
He cites the well known story of James McDermott, who gave stock tips to a stripper, goes to jail for sharing insider information. While in jail, James’ office in the trade towers was hit by the 9/11 planes, and his coworkers all died. Therefore, the news of going to jail was actually good. The issue of trying to determine if something is good or bad is something a lot of people do, but really has no real purpose in how you should be proceeding a lot of times on an objective level.
You can bend anything to seem like a good event. And it’s a good idea to probably do so, but down deep realize this concept of making things seem good vs bad is probably not serving you in a direct fashion.
The point being that it might ACTUALLY be bad news that you’re experiencing, but it’s better to just consider it all good, and continue to pivot / adapt and progress further. It’s a good idea to say everything is good, but it may not be accurate.
The same is true for the idea of “fault.”
Since determining who is at fault is very difficult, if not impossible, and the better idea is to simply blame yourself for everything. It’s not necessarily true that it’s your fault, since a 2 year old beaten excessively by his parents can hardly be considered “at fault.” We know Alex Becker and many others maintain that the only way you can feel like you’re in control and not be hampered by feeling like a victim is to believe everything is your fault as a blanket belief.
Indeed, there are certain things that may not be your fault, but the reality is that the entire concept of fault is worthless. People like the concept of fault to protect their ego / self when it was someone else’s fault, and to pump themselves up when things go well when it was their ‘fault’ they did so well. Those are kind of worthless objectives when it comes to your actual goals. Therefore, down deep, the concept of fault is worthless and you should be attempting to be moving forward regardless of whether you are a true victim or not, whether it was really your fault or someone else’s fault.
The point is that even though it’s a good idea to simply attribute fault to yourself, it may or may not be true, and finally, it shouldn’t matter even if you knew for sure. Know where you went wrong, what was just bad luck, and alter your strategies as needed, but don’t worry about the true ways to rationalize it into being your fault (or not your fault) and realize your next step is based on logic, and not protecting your ego.
Therefore, the next level beyond attributing fault is simply realize that fault is a worthless concept created around people that are preserving egos and making excuses for not moving forward.
