You don’t. That’s the secret.
Very few thought leaders will admit this idea of finding a passion is a terrible idea. It’s because it’s highly lucrative to sell people an easily believable model:
1) Find your passion
2) Then you’ll love what you do
3) Then you’ll get rich
Give people some anecdotal stories about people finding what they love to do, get better at it, and get rich and happy.
“All you need to do is find your passion!” This meat of this statement has truth but is wrapped in a thick BS tortilla.
Seth Godin said it best when he said in an interview with Tom Bilyeu the following:
Passion is created – NOT found.
You pick what you want it to be. Creating your passion is done by getting some good feedback around something and changing your neurochemistry of your brain (just like Tony Robbins talks about) to anchor in positive states around that event.
They want you to think it’s in your DNA, and you just need to meditate more to find it!
Good news – it’s not in your DNA somewhere. If it was, no one would have ever “found their passion” prior to the internet since most people’s passion these days is coding, YouTube content creation, Photoshopping pictures, animating in Adobe Flash, etc. Even outside of tech, did every person that’s had “passion” in their DNA for piano playing all live a dispassionate life prior to the invention of the piano by Bartolomeo Cristofori? No.
Passion is picked and cultivated by you.
Perhaps we should examine our other goals that are similar to “finding your passion” are actually impossible and ludicrous. If you’re not making progress (even a SMALL amount) at all on the goal, it’s time to:
1) Change the strategy (eg. Stop meditating thinking about what you might like, and instead just actually try a lot of different things)
2) Give up, (eg. How can I get the results of passion without being passionate?)
3) Examine is that goal is even possible or legit and tweak it (eg. Don’t find your passion, create it instead).