Ross Jeffries (the wildly successful god father of dating advice) says that Tony Robbins creates people that are addicted to Tony’s work. Ross means well I’m sure, but Tony absolutely needs to create addicts for self-improvement.
Tony Robbins made his customers addicted to him.
Drug addiction illustrates perfectly the main concept of nearly all positive change we have in ourselves.
Only after you’re addicted to something do you get the real effects from it. Self improvement material is not something you learn and are done with it. It’s like weeding a garden that requires constant maintenance to keep your mind clean, usually by listening to gurus repeatedly will allow you to catch the things you missed the last time you listened.
Most people probably think drugs are for losers that need a temporary high, just like self improvement material. Then one bad day happens, and you’re more apt to listen to some guru (or take a drug). Just like someone is more receptive to something on one day more than the other, repeatedly “pushing” the drug / self-improvement stuff will eventually click.
If you try drugs once, probably no lasting changes will happen. Same thing as if you listen to one self improvement video or go to one seminar. You get the results from repeatedly doing it, like going to many seminars (and doing many drugs).
I thought Tony was doing a disservice by making people addicted to his works. But it’s like picking weeds – you can pick all the weeds today and understand how to pick weeds, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to pick more weeks next week. And like an overgrown garden, most of the weed picking is at first when you clear them all out, but it’s much faster to maintain a weed free garden.
Self improvement goes in the category of working out, weeding gardens, and doing drugs…there’s no end destination to it, and doing it repeatedly (aka “addicted” if it’s bad, “persistent” if it’s good) is the only way to keep those changes.